Monthly Archives: January 2011

Dos : Behind the Name

Day 2: Meaning behind your blog name.

Why Sexy Bitchy Fabulous? To be honest, it took me a while to figure out why I chose that name myself. But I sat down, and went through a few old posts, and taddaaaa! Here’s a little history on my blog.
I used to be – The Girl : Inside Out
Started my blog back in April 2008, after one of the worst breakups I’ve gone through in my life. I felt like I had to put on a mask for almost everyone around me and needed a way to just let things out whenever I wanted to. Which explains the name. It was my way of saying, this is me. Not the me you see, but the me I am on the inside.
It was my third attempt at starting a blog. The first two, through the then-popular Friendster. Obviously, those two didn’t have very long life spans. At the time I started this blog, Even I had no idea if it would last or not. Who would have known eh?
Then in 2009, I went through a few months of ups and downs with the boy that caused the heartache which got me to start the blog in the first place. (Read old posts if you’re confused) Anyways, after such a rocky few months, I turned 21 and decided I needed what felt like a fresh start. So I moved…
HERE! :) My post on me shifting blog.
Many people seem to assume that SexyBitchyFabulous comes from my belief that I am All That. And that’s why sometimes when people want to leave comments to bitch about me, they tell me I should have picked a different blog name, because I am neither sexy nor fabulous.
But the truth is, I felt really shitty after turning 21. And disappointed in everything that I had put myself through. I was not in a good place in my life. I picked the name not because I felt I was special at that time. I chose the name to remind myself, that I could be. It was the little push I needed to give myself. That boost of confidence.
So you may read : SexyBitchyFabulous. But to me, it has been and always will be : You can do it Charissa. You are an amazing person. Don’t let anything anyone else says or does to you, bring you down. You are strong. And you never have to feel like you can’t conquer the world (if you want to) again.
Who knows? Someday when I feel like I have already conquered the world, or my world at least, I may move my blog again. But for now, I’m happy with the name. No matter what people choose to say about it :)

Uno : Fun Facts

Day 1: Introduce, recent picture of yourself, 15 interesting facts.
  • I like taking pictures. More than I like my pictures being taken. But I still want pictures of myself.
  • I sleep at the oddest hours. Most of the time I’m heading to bed when everyone’s waking up.
  • I do not really enjoy shopping. I love buying new things, and once in a while I feel like going on a spree, but more likely than not, I would be the person complaining about having to walk around a mall for hours. I prefer to grab and go.
  • I sometimes spend hours doing my hair/make up/picking something to wear. But just when you think I’m the girliest girl you could find, you turn around and see me again, this time in a baggy t-shirt with my hair up in a bun.
  • I’m a complete geek in some ways. I wear glasses. I know my html coding. I play lame online games. Yeah.
  • But I think I’m pretty damn cool too. Really, I can be fun at times! :p
  • I have 7 tattoos and 28 piercings. Used to be 30, but I got so fat that my belly piercing fell out.
  • I’m not actually SO fat. I’m just chubby. Hehehehe.
  • I feel like I sometimes leave my friends feeling neglected because I’m not around to hang out with them often enough. (If you’re one of my friends that feels this way, I hope you KNOW that I LOVE YOU!)
  • I LIVE ONLINE. I know some people say I should get a life. Or that the internet is not everything. But if you move around like I do, and have people you love, all over the world, you should understand that the internet is the closest thing to being a part of their lives. Or letting them be a part of mine. So yes, I have no plans of getting off the internet.
  • I love strawberry flavoured things. (Ice cream, sweets, drinks) But I hate actual strawberries. When I have them with whipped cream, I always end up only finishing the whipped cream.
  • I am random. I believe it is because my mind is overflowing with thoughts and ideas and I can’t really focus on just one thing at a time, so I may say the weirdest things at the weirdest times. Really.
  • I am very forgetful. I try to put everything I pick up back in the place it came from or else I’d never find it again. And even then, I still “misplace” all kinds of things, regularly.
  • I have really long nails. Nails that sound like they’re attacking the keyboard when I type. It actually physically hurt to type for a while when I first decided to keep really long nails, but then I got used to it.
  • I ramble, a lot. That’s also probably why my fingers got used to the pain it felt while typing. Coz sometimes I can write a two page long post without even realising it. And then I have to go re-read again and cut it down so that normal human beings might actually be able to finish reading it.

Whores Next Door

**Ugh. Edit. Because some people may think this is coming out of jealousy. And then may want to start a bitchfight on it. And really, I don’t wanna bother.
I want to state here FIRST, before you read on. I am not conservative nor am I a saint. And I do have a desire to be known someday. I just do not wish to put the two together and get famous for such degrading reasons. Thank you very much :)
Also, chill a little, won’tcha? Why take my post so seriously? It’s only MY opinion on things. Below is the original post I put up. Now go ahead and read! :D**

FHM Malaysia’s Girl Next Door contestants. Or more appropriately, Whores Next Door.
Popularity has it’s perks. Not having to put in as much effort into things you do once you’re famous just because we live in a world in which people are fascinated by celebrities. And I shall not deny the fact that even I would love to achieve stardom someday. I’ve never wanted to be a nobody.
But I would never want my claim to fame to come from nationally whoring myself out.
3 out of the 12 Whore Next Door contestants. Photos taken for FHM Malaysia spread.
And these girls are happy about their pictures being posted up on FHM’s wall, where horny man, probably in the middle of wanking, leave comments like “Girl Next Door that I’d really love to skodeng“, “My lil bro went uppp high” and “I dream of (insert name)..and she’s not wearing a dress”. And then these girls thank the people for their wonderful comments -_____-” Have they no respect for themselves?

Right picture, enhanced, photoshopped and airbrushed to perfection. If you can’t tell, stare at her right boob (does it not look weird to you?) That’s not the way it looks in real life. If you don’t believe me, go look for more of her photos. I do not want my post to be about tits. Not this one anyways.
Left picture’s more natural, but ugly as fuck for a model-wannabe. And strangely, that’s your winner.
Now, there’s been some debate on why the heck she won in the first place. But really, none of it makes a difference. Some say she’s ugly and shouldn’t win (admitting flat out that the contest is about just looking good), and then other people retort by saying that it’s about who the person is, not how they look.
Also bloody rubbish! Because if FHM GND’s contest wasn’t about looks and the fantasies these girls give you, they wouldn’t get asked things like “which vegetable satisfies you the most”. Yes, an actual question posed to the GND girls of 2009 by Red FM’s DJ Han. If it was really about personality, we would see ordinary not so good looking girls, not rubbing their boobs in your face in the FHM spread. Oh wait. The first part’s already happened.
What does standing in bikinis have to do with excellent personality? And as for the role-model side of the girls that join this contest. FHM Malaysia GND contest is sponsored by Carlsberg. Coz life’s pointless if you haven’t got a beer in your hand, right?
My point of this post is not to criticize the girls for looking bad. That was just for fun. Looks have never stopped me from loving my friends or making new ones. My point here is that I don’t see why the hell girls are subjecting themselves to that kind of treatment? Go join Miss Malaysia where at least you’re treated with some respect.
Getting asked what kind of vegetable makes for the best dildo! wtfuck people?!
p/s : My apologies to probably that ONE contestant who has never slept with anyone to get to where she is now and didn’t know what was headed her way when she joined :)


After almost 10 hours of sitting in front of my laptop, minus the breaks I had to pee, I have finally finished renovation on my blog !!! Yay !!! Those of you who have been here before would know it used to look like this.

I know, I know. Such a pretty sight. But what to do? I did all that work on the super old Blogger template thing. And it was getting more and more troublesome to add widgets and functions. So yes, had to upgrade. So long, old blog.
As you can see, the new layout has a different header and background. I think that’s what took up most of my time. I’m a perfectionist when it comes to certain things. Curse that fact! Added in pages, so the main page doesn’t look as cluttered as it used to. Does it? And social networking buttons. Which you all could and SHOULD click on =D
Link Within widget. Which is still being a little wonky. Keeps showing the same posts. I’m not sure why, but I’m in the process of figuring that one out. And COMMENTS! Can I get a hell yeah?! Now everyone can stop telling me that I should have a comments box so it’s easier for them. Hehe.
Also fixed is my side feed, for Google followers. But you have to un-follow first, the re-follow again. Thank you!
Will put up a proper update tomorrow. I shall go have breakfast now! Lol.
So, what you waiting for? Start commenting! :)

Guidelines for Celebrating Festivals

I came across what I find an interesting read. Link was on a friend’s wall. Now since this is a personal blog, and not one that has limits and whatnot. I don’t think it’s too controversial for me to blog about religion and stuff. And with Chinese New Year happening next week, I thought I’d share.
Guidelines For Muslims Celebrating Religious Festivals Of Non-Muslims.
The 68th muzakarah of the National Fatwa Committee for Islamic Religious Affairs on April 12, 2005 discussed the Guidelines For Muslims Celebrating Religious Festivals Of Non-Muslims. The muzakarah has decided that:

In determining the non-Muslim celebrations that can be attended by Muslims, several main criteria should serve as guidelines so as not to contradict the teachings of Islam. The criteria are as follows:

  1. The event is not accompanied by ceremonies that are against the Islamic faith (aqidah).

The meaning of “against the Islamic faith (aqidah)” is a thing, act, word or situation which if conducted will lead to tarnishing the faith (aqidah) of Muslims.

For example:

  1. to include religious symbols such as the cross, installing lights, candles, Christmas tree and so forth;
  2. to sing religious songs;
  3. to put any religious markings on the forehead, or other markings onto parts of the body;
  4. to deliver speech or gestures in the form of a praise to the non-Muslim religion;
  5. to bow or conduct acts of honour to the religious ceremony of non-Muslims.
  1. The event is not accompanied by acts against the Islamic law.
The meaning of “against the Islamic law” is a thing, act, word or situation which if conducted will contradict the Islamic teachings practised by the Muslim community.

For example:

  1. Wearing red costumes like Santa Claus or other garments that reflect religion;
  2. Serving intoxicating food or beverages and the likes;
  3. Having sounds or ornaments like church bells, Christmas tree, temple or breaking of coconuts;
  4. Having ceremonies with elements of gaming, worship, cult, superstitions and the likes.
  1. The event is not accompanied by “acts that contradict with moral and cultural development of Muslim society” in this country.
The meaning of “acts that contradict with moral and cultural development of Muslim society”is a thing, act, word or situation which if conducted will contradict the values and norms of the Muslim society of this country which adheres to the Islamic teachings based on Ahlus Sunnah Wal-Jamaah.
For example:
  1. Mixing freely without any limit or manners;
  2. Wearing conspicuous clothing;
  3. Singing songs that contain lyrics of obscenity and worship;
  4. Organising programmes such as beauty pageants, cock fighting and such.
  1. The event is not accompanied by acts that can “stir the sensitivity of Muslim community”.
The meaning of “stir the sensitivity of Muslim community” is a thing, act, word or situation which if conducted will offend the feelings of Muslims about their beliefs and practices.
For Example:
  1. Speeches or songs in the form of non-Muslim religious propaganda;
  2. Speeches that insult the Muslims;
  3. Speeches that insult Islam;
  4. Presentations with the aim to ridicule the religious belief of Muslims.
  1. The organisers and the public are asked to get the views of religious authorities before organising or attending celebrations of non-Muslims.

I have not edited one word of it. Original piece can be viewed on by clicking on THIS link.
I don’t want to go into SO much detail of what I feel about the article, but am I the only one that thought OMGosh. Isn’t that as good as saying “You’re not allowed to celebrate any Non-Muslim festivals?”
What happened to the concept of OneMalaysia? Living in this country, isn’t everyone forced to hear the Azan every morning when they play it SO loud from the mosques? I don’t know how lucky you are, but I live near enough to one and it’s like an annoying 6am alarm. But non-muslims don’t get a say in it. We don’t get to complain that it upsets our Gods that we’re listening to prayers of some other religion. Is it me, or is this OneMalaysia concept really not working? How can the government expect the people to play along with it, when they aren’t starting by setting a good example.
I long to live in a world where people do more than just preach equality. But then again, I think that’s hoping for a little too much.