What I would like to say to Sity Maznah

I knew I would write a response to this the moment I read it. But I told myself to calm down and maybe wait a day or two, to avoid excessive cursing (or any cursing at all really). So how do I say this without breaking that rule?
I think the article was complete poo! Poo’s not a curse word, is it?
I’m gonna go ahead and address the issues separately, because really, there’s so much rubbish it in it makes my head spin.

“Domestic abuse happens because wives don’t obey their husband’s orders. A man must be responsible for his wife’s wellbeing but she must listen to her husband,” said Siti Maznah in an interview on Friday.

When asked whether it was the wife’s fault for being abused, she said: “Yes, most probably because she didn’t listen to her husband.”

First of all. I am totally, completely, a hundred thousand percent against abuse of any sort. Especially that of the physical nature. I do not see how any human being could support the idea of abuse as a punishment. We don’t live in the 15th century, and even then I don’t think it would have been the right thing to do. People were just less educated and didn’t know any better. We should be smarter by now. Maybe schools should spend less time shoving useless information into kids’ heads and dedicate an hour or two a day to just teaching them about life. Teaching boys and girls that abuse isn’t right. You don’t get to raise your hand at a person for anything. Ever.

She said women had the duty of making themselves attractive and dressing up beautifully at home.

“Wives should welcome them with sexy clothes and alluring smiles when in the privacy of their homes,” she said, adding that she herself did the same as everyone in the club practised what they preached.

I actually agree with the part about women having the duty of making themselves attractive and dressing up beautifully. And yes, women should welcome men with sexy clothes (or whatever tickles his fancy). But I think the same should apply to men as well. Us women don’t want to be be greeted by abusive husbands. Or ones who can’t take care of their own grooming. Or even those who are moody and pissy.
Siti Maznah, 48, also stressed that husbands would not stray and turn to prostitutes if wives supplied them with a satisfying sex life.
And HAHAHAHA. This is the biggest joke of all. Siti Maznah, a member of club to be launched by an organization which is founded by an Islamic group does not think that prostitution is against her/their religion? Isn’t any sort of pre-marital sex against their religion? And in Malaysia, isn’t it also illegal for Muslims to even have sex outside of marriage? You could get arrested for it. I don’t even need to attach proof for that because anyone who lives in Malaysia already knows it’s true.
Ridiculous. This coming from a woman whose religion’s stand on sex education is mainly focused on abstinence. What a joke. Why did no one address her on that issue? I would have loved to have heard her explanation to that.
I don’t know for sure, because all I ever did was go for Moral education (non-Muslim student) classes in school. But do muslim girls get thought that they should accept adultery and abuse as suitable punishments for disobedience towards their future husbands?
For god’s sake. Open your eyes already! What on earth is going on in our country?!
So according to this Siti Maznah lady. There’s only one way a marriage will work. Really. Think about it.
Man & woman get married. Man is a slob, doesn’t give woman any reason to be happy. Woman gets angry. Man abuses woman to teach her a lesson. Woman learns her lesson. Woman bows down to man for the rest of his life.
Man & woman get married. Man is a slob, doesn’t give woman any reason to be happy. Woman gets angry. Man sleeps around because he’s not happy. Woman learns her lesson. Woman bows down to man for the rest of his life.
Man & woman get married. Man decides to be a cheating imbecile for no reason. Woman gets angry. Man abuses woman to shut her up. Woman learns her lesson. Woman bows down to man for the rest of his life.
Man & woman get married. Man decides to beat her up because he has issues. Woman gets emotional. Man is not happy with his home life anymore and sleeps around a little. Woman learns her lesson. Woman bows down to man for the rest of his life.
Man & woman get married. Woman does everything to make man happy. Man is just a retard on his own and has abuse/cheating issues. Woman keeps doing everything to try and make man happy. Man doesn’t change. Woman bows down to man for the rest of his life.
I’m sorry, but if that’s the direction in which our country’s heading, I would like to pack my bags and move away NOW. I think someone needs to teach them that there are other ways of making a marriage work. For example :-
Man & woman get married. They treat each other as equals and respect each other. Man loves woman. Woman loves man. No one cheats. No one beats each other up. Man & woman have babies who grow up to be just like them and they have babies that grow up to be just like them and they have babies who grow up to be just like them and they have babies who grow up to be just like them and you get the picture.
p/s : I said (in anger) on facebook last night “If I weren’t so against abuse, i’d wish for her husband to beat the shit outta her someday for no reason at all, just to teach her a lesson for saying such ridiculous things”. But now that I’ve had time to think about it. I found the perfect solution.
Did you know that the Sharia law in one state is not applicable in another? A divorced man can avoid paying child support by moving. So these men who have “four to 26” (per polygamous household) children could just pick up and go someday. I hope that happens to her instead.
p/p/s :
Say NO to domestic abuse!!
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4 thoughts on “What I would like to say to Sity Maznah

  1. Mich says:

    Women around the world has every right to hate her now !

  2. suarapetite says:

    siti maznah could be one of those lucky women who may have a perfect husband, life and family. she cannot simply assume her theory of success would work in another domestic institution. doing so ie by establishing a club, she had just moved a step backward by condoning abuse and by telling the whole world how a proper Muslim women should treat her husband. after all, this movement she created is the first of its kind. god damn it. im ashamed and depressed to see this. not another radical islamist but rather a humiliating and disgusting one. whatever she preaches, is up to women to believe or not. but for sure, it is not to be glorified or embraced. it is just, so discriminatory, unfair and a disgrace to all women in this world.

  3. JaclynTan says:

    Love this post! 100% agree with you! ^^

  4. m. says:

    YEAHHH!!!!! *standing ovation*

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